The spirit of shame

The spirit of shame makes you feel like there is something wrong with you. It makes you feel as if you are not good enough. Shame is a deep-seated sense of unworthiness. You feel like you are not valuable and like people do not like you, and that makes you try hard to compensate for your perceived weaknesses and inadequacies.

The spirit of shame is difficult to recognize. It gets implanted deep within your soul and you go through life wondering what could be wrong with you. You will be seeing the symptoms of shame manifesting in your life but you do not actually know you are in shame. It is a soul wound that keeps people stuck and living in negative self-defeating cycles most of their lives.

Shame usually starts in childhood. The devil is a deceiver and he plants the spirit of shame starting at a young age when we do not know any better. Shame then becomes the point from which you identify yourself, even though it is at the unconscious level. Unconsciously, shame starts ruining your relationships and your life.

The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. John 10:10.

Early childhood painful experiences plant the spirit of shame deep into your soul. Physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, emotional and physical neglect, poverty, being raised in a dysfunctional family characterized by mental illnesses in the family, addictions, imprisonment of a family member, domestic abuse, divorce, and death of a family member open the door for the spirit of shame. Extreme criticism or bullying and experiencing violence or man-made and natural calamities also lead to soul wounds, shame being one of them.

Shame is pervasive. The spirit of shame invades the soul and affects every aspect of your life. It distorts the way you view yourself, how you view others, and how you view life in general. Shame manifests in many ways: low esteem, shyness, feeling rejected, perfectionism to try to compensate for your sense of unworthiness, withdrawal from people, feeling unworthy and self-deprecation.

The spirit of shame makes you become a people-pleaser in an attempt to gain acceptance; you do too much for people but at the end of the day feel like people do not appreciate your efforts, that they are taking advantage of you, and that what you do does not seem to matter. Shame makes you do things that you do not want to, just to please people, and this makes you end up experiencing regret and lose your sense of self.

The spirit of shame makes you live in extremes. You view things and people as all good or all bad. This leads to anger and frustration when people fall short of the expectations you had for them. You also place too high expectations on yourself, and this makes you criticize yourself when you fail and you end up feeling like a failure.

The spirit of shame makes you identify yourself with your mistakes or with what other people say about you. If you fail, for example, you label yourself a failure. You take what other people say to you too personally, and make the negative words people speak to you your identity. If for example, somebody corrects you for an error you made, you internalize that and start thinking you are not good enough, and this ends up making you withdraw. You become too sensitive to other people’s words or actions towards you and you are unable to separate your personhood from what is happening externally.

Shame makes you worry too much about what other people are thinking about you. You end up misinterpreting their words and actions as an attack on you. You become quiet, shy, and unable to voice your opinion because deep down you feel like your opinion does not matter and that other people are much better than you.

The spirit of shame makes you dwell on negative thoughts about yourself, about other people, and about life, and as a result, you become very unpleasant to be around. You become very defensive, and use defence mechanisms as a way to hide your inner sense of inadequacy. You project your deep shame on others and use the mask of anger and criticism of others to hide your inner sense of unworthiness or inferiority. Eventually, you seclude yourself and the negative cycle continues. You end up sabotaging yourself. The spirit of shame works together with the spirit of sabotage.

The spirit of shame uses defensiveness as a cover-up. Defensiveness makes you become angry, argumentative, and want to be right and have the final say. This is in an attempt to control people and situations so that you feel like you are in control and worthy. However, such defensiveness, negative attitude, and emotional outbursts end up ruining relationships. You become unable to sustain healthy communication and instead hide what you feel and eventually have outbursts of emotions. The immature behavior makes people disrespect you and avoid you, and this makes you feel like an outsider and leaves you with no friends.

The deep-seated feeling of inadequacy that the spirit of shame brings makes you afraid or embarrassed to share your thoughts. It makes you feel like people will judge you for what you say and that you will appear unintelligent. You dread failure and this paralyzes you and prevents you from taking any action. The spirit of shame makes you feel small and develop a grasshopper mentality. You do not trust that people have good intentions and so you treat them with suspicion and shut them off. The fear of judgement by others makes you lose your identity and you become unable to live an authentic life.

Shame is not of God. If you are experiencing shame, you have to realize that it is an evil tormenting spirit whose aim is to try and block you from becoming who God created you to be. The spirit of shame is a demonic spirit that lies to people that they are not good enough, and so they shrink themselves and live defeated unproductive lives. Shame makes you underestimate yourself and overestimate others. It makes you live a passive life as an observer instead of an active participant. The spirit of shame makes you feel powerless and you become dependent on other people. You become shy, quiet, timid, and passive.

The spirit of shame attacks the mind and distorts how you view yourself. You criticize yourself, view yourself as unworthy and not good enough, and you minimize your strengths and magnify your weaknesses. Shame makes you live in the background. You are unable to express yourself, you live in an internal world full of criticism towards yourself and others, and you lose touch with reality.

Shame is a soul wound that needs healing. If you have been experiencing recurrent negative cycles in your life, it is highly like that the spirit of shame and the spirit of sabotage are operating in your life. These evil spirits are very subtle and cause a lot of harm before a person realizes what is going on.

Shame causes addictions, ruins relationships and families, leads to emotional instability and mental illnesses like depression, causes low esteem, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, can lead to physical illnesses, makes you become egotistical and proud, and can lead to obsessive and compulsive tendencies. Perfectionism, people-pleasing, and egoistical behavior are the main ways people try to hide their deep sense of unworthiness and shame.

If you have been struggling with shame, there is good news. Jesus Christ is the healer of wounded souls.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3.

Shame is a soul wound that God is more than able to heal. Decide today that shame will no longer be part of your life. Start renewing your mind with the Word of God and believe what God says about you. Reject the negative thoughts that have been tormenting you and recognize them as lies from the devil. Do not allow the devil to lie to you anymore.

God did not make a mistake when He created you; there is nothing wrong with you. If there is sin in your life, repent and believe that Jesus Christ has forgiven you. Do not dwell on the past or on the negative; start thinking good and godly thoughts about yourself and about other people.

As a human being, you will make mistakes. Stop identifying yourself with your mistakes. Do not give yourself or other people negative labels. You are a child of God, fearfully and wonderfully made in His image and likeness. Everything that God made was good; you are God’s creation. Your worth and value come from God, not from what you do or from what people say about you or do to you. Do not allow the devil to use shame to try and block you from becoming who God created you to be. Reject every lie of the devil.

For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:4-5.

For the spirit of shame to leave, you need to renew your mind and start thinking differently. Identify and reject all the negative thoughts the devil had planted in your mind. We are in a spiritual battle; you need to put on the full armor of God so that you are able to defeat the devil.

Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Ephesians 6:11-13.

Shame hides in darkness, and when the light of God finally shines on those dark voids where the spirit of shame was hiding, shame has no choice but to leave your life completely. Light and darkness cannot coexist.

It is time to become who God created you to be. Shame has no power over you. Take power and authority over the spirit of shame and command it to leave your life forever. No more self-defeating thoughts and actions, no more shrinking yourself, no more self-pity, no more negative thoughts about others and about life. It is time to take the power and authority given to you by Jesus Christ and live in the fullness of His plan and purpose for your life. You are not lesser than others, you are not a reject, you are not inferior. You are who God says you are. Be who God created you to be, unapologetically.

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Negative Thinking

Negative thinking is one of the most effective ways that the devil uses to sabotage people’s lives. People consumed in negative thinking find themselves circling around a negative cycle most or all of their lives, unless or until that negative cycle is broken. Negative thinking yields negative emotions that in turn give rise to negative behavior, and the cycle continues over and over again.

When your mind tends to lean toward the negative, you will realize that things in your life tend to fall apart. Your relationships will end up failing, you will be unable to relate well with people, and you will have a tendency to criticize and see the worst in others. People will start walking away from you and you will be left wondering why nobody wants to be close to you. When people get close and they experience your negative thinking and negative attitudes towards them or towards life, they will no longer desire to be your friend.

The spirit of sabotage uses negative thinking to frustrate your life. Negative thinking will make you sabotage your friendships, your marriage, your family, your relationships, your job, and many other aspects of your life. The negative thinking towards others will make you become angry and bitter at them and whatever friendship existed soon comes crumbling down. When you have negative thinking about life in general, you will easily become frustrated and give up. You will not be willing to try out new things because, in your mind, there is no need to try.

Many people are living with anxiety, depression, low esteem, and shame because of negative thinking. Negative thoughts about yourself will make you feel like you are unworthy and like you are below other people. You will feel like you are not beautiful, or capable of doing things on your own, like you are not at the level of others, and like you have to put yourself down. Negative thinking will create in you false humility that leads you to live below your capacity. Your sense of inner unworthiness will make you hate yourself, make you isolate yourself, and end up living a lonely unfulfilled life.

One form of negative thinking is whereby you believe that things have to work out perfectly. This makes you think in extremes. You think that if you are not perfect or extremely good at something, then there is no need to try that thing out. Negative thinking makes you believe that if you do not get perfect scores, or you do not perform extremely well at something, or if there is no assurance that what you want will succeed, then there is no need of trying. Negative distorted thinking makes you think that you must be a certain way or must get something or someone, and this drives you to do things that you would not normally do in an attempt to get what you want. You might eventually become desperate or obsessively try to get that thing or that person.

If you easily jump to conclusions about someone or something, it is highly likely that you have negative thinking. Negative thinking makes you assume negative things about other people and it makes you assume that something bad will happen in the future. When you assume negative things about a person, with time your feelings toward them will be negative and soon you will start treating them according to how you feel about them. When you jump to negative conclusions about people without any evidence of wrongdoing on their part, you end up sabotaging relationships. Assuming negative things about the future will make you live an anxious life.

Maybe you have a tendency to see only the worst in things, people, or life in general. Negative thinking will make you put aside the positive things about yourself and about others. When your mind is consumed with negativity, you will make a mountain out of a molehill and discard any good thing in yourself or in other people. Concentrating on the negative will lead you to develop low esteem and put other people down.

If you are a person who is too emotional, you will end up being led by your emotions instead of the Holy Spirit. Negative thinking makes people think that what they feel is true even when there is no evidence to support their feelings. Maybe you feel like your partner is unloving and you end up treating them in demeaning ways yet probably they are just going through a difficult time. If you continue in that direction, soon you will end up ruining your marriage. The spirit of sabotage has ruined many relationships. Many people are engaged in negative cycles where they are led by negative emotions and they end up sabotaging good relationships, only for them to regret it later.

Maybe you place very high expectations on yourself or on other people. In your mind, you think there is a certain way your life should be, or think there is a certain way other people should behave, or that there is a certain way life should be. Such high expectations of yourself, of other people, and of life will set you up for great disappointment. When you fall short or others fall short, then negative thoughts will torment you and you will coil back into a frustrated, bitter, self-deprecating corner. You have to remember that you and other people are human beings and you should be ready to extend grace to yourself and to others.

One negative experience does not translate into negative experiences in the future. Just because you failed in one thing does not mean that you will always fail in the future and neither does it make you a failure. Just because someone was unable to do for you that thing you wanted does not mean that they will always do that in the future and neither does it make them untrustworthy. Be gracious and give room for yourself and for others.

Negative thinking will make you blame yourself and others unnecessarily. You start thinking that it is your fault that that relationship failed or you allocate blame to the other person. Blaming yourself will only lead to a negative cycle of shame, guilt, and condemnation. Pointing fingers at others will lead to hostility and the ruining of your relationship with them.

Do not fall into the trap of negative thinking. It is important to examine yourself and take note of your thinking patterns. Examine the negative patterns that have been recurring in your life and search for the ways that negative thinking has been contributing to such patterns. The enemy is very cunning and he introduces negative thoughts to make you live a defeated life.

Negative thinking sabotages your life without your knowledge and leaves you frustrated and unable to achieve the purpose that God created you to live. It will make you ruin friendships and relationships, it will delay your marriage, affect your children and the coming generations, and make you have a negative and demeaning perspective of yourself such that you will be unable to take hold of what God has for you.

You will think that you do not deserve anything good in life and that eventually becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because your emotions and behavior will follow what you are thinking. You will start behaving like a person who does not deserve anything in life, think that other people are better than you and that you cannot be able to do what others are doing. The Bible tells us that as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.

Do not allow the devil to sabotage your life with negative thinking. It is time to take your thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. Learn to recognize your thinking patterns and challenge them with evidence of how things truly are and with the truth of the Word of God. Just because a thought pops up in your mind does not make it true. The mind is a battleground and the devil has defeated many people through the use of negative and false thinking. You need to be aware of the tricks of the devil and fight back. Do not allow the devil to manipulate you into accepting false and unreal thoughts. Do not live in the false reality of negative distorted thinking. It is time to sober up, think clearly, and see things for what they really are.

For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled. 2 Corinthians 10:3-6.

It is possible to choose which thoughts you think and meditate on. Choose to think good thoughts. When your thinking pattern changes, your life will change.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. Philippians 4:8.

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The spirit of sabotage

The spirit of sabotage has destroyed the lives of many people. It is a spirit that undermines people and obstructs them from living the life that God intended them to live. The spirit of sabotage causes stagnation, ruined relationships, destroys businesses, and wrecks havoc in a person’s life.

It is subtle and many people do not realize that they are under the spirit of sabotage. It is a spirit that pervades every aspect of a person’s life and prevents that person from moving forward or even leads to premature death. The spirit of sabotage is an anti-progress spirit, it is an incapacitating spirit, and comes to undermine and ruin a person’s life.

If you have been in multiple failed relationships, if nothing you do seems to work out, if everything you touch fails, and if you have been experiencing repeated negative patterns in your life, it is highly likely that you are under the spirit of sabotage. It is a spirit aimed at ruining and frustrating your life. You will be wondering why you try to make a step forward yet you find yourself moving backward.

When Nehemiah went to rebuild the wall of Jerusalem, he met opposition from people who were opposed to what he was doing.

When Sanballat the Horonite and Tobiah the Ammonite official heard of it, they were deeply disturbed that a man had come to seek the well-being of the children of Israel. Nehemiah 2:10.

Sanballat and Tobiah were envious of the fact that Nehemiah had come to seek out the well-being of the people of Israel, and they were out to sabotage him. Watch out who you associate with because some people are envious of your success and they are trying to bring you down. Also, search your heart and see if there is a spirit of envy in you that has been sabotaging you and other people.

When Sanballat, Tobiah, and Geshem heard Nehemiah tell people to rise up and build the wall of Jerusalem, they laughed and despised them.

Then I said to them, “You see the distress that we are in, how Jerusalem lies waste, and its gates are burned with fire. Come and let us build the wall of Jerusalem, that we may no longer be a reproach.” And I told them of the hand of my God which had been good upon me, and also of the king’s words that he had spoken to me. So they said, “Let us rise up and build.” Then they set their hands to this good work. But when Sanballat the Horonite, Tobiah the Ammonite official, and Geshem the Arab heard of it, they laughed at us and despised us, and said, “What is this thing that you are doing? Will you rebel against the king?” So I answered them, and said to them, “The God of heaven Himself will prosper us; therefore we His servants will arise and build, but you have no heritage or right or memorial in Jerusalem.” Nehemiah 2:17-20.

The spirit of sabotage works together with the spirit of jealousy and envy, the spirit of rejection, pride, anger, and low esteem. Jealousy and envy destroy relationships, rejection makes you feel like you are unworthy and you end up destroying whatever you touch, pride makes you blind to areas in your life that need to change, anger is a defense mechanism against inner feelings of rejection and low sense of worth, and low esteem makes you have a grasshopper mentality and make you think that you do not desire to be in a better place in life. Low esteem will subconsciously make you settle for less even when you are able to achieve more, because deep down you do not believe you deserve better. It will make you settle for toxic relationships because that is all that you can relate to. When all these evil spirits and many more are at work in a person’s life, that person keeps experiencing recurrent negative cycles and ends up living a frustrated unfulfilled life.

Unless those negative cycles are broken in Jesus’ name by the power of the Holy Spirit, they end up affecting one generation to another. Such people end up re-living what their grandparents and parents experienced. They experience delays, addictions, frustrations, failed relationships, poverty, diseases and illnesses, wasted lives lived without a purpose, premature death, and much more. The spirit of sabotage prevents people from achieving the God-ordained purpose in their lives. It distracts people, slows them down, takes them in the wrong direction, and they end up missing out on what God purposed for them.

If you and your family have been experiencing delayed marriages or other delays in life, if you are constantly in wrong toxic relationships, if you have a tendency to make wrong and rush decisions, if whatever you start always seems to be crumbling down, then the spirit of sabotage may be at work in your life and family. If you have unexplained anger and envy in your heart and end up destroying every relationship you enter into, then the spirit of sabotage may be at work in your life. If you make decisions that do not make sense to the rational mind, then the spirit of sabotage may be at work in your life. If you have wrong distorted thinking about things and people, then the spirit of sabotage may be at work in your life. The aim of the spirit of sabotage is to undermine and cripple you, make you live a frustrated purposeless life, and waste all your time on worthless things.

The spirit of sabotage will make you envious and critical of others, and in the process, you will ruin all the relationships you enter into. It will make you think evil of others without any evidence of wrongdoing on their part, and in the process, you will find out that no one wants to associate with you. The spirit of sabotage will make you dishonor others, and in so doing blessings will pass you by. Dishonor is a strategy of the devil to make you insubordinate and unruly, something that will cost you dearly. The spirit of sabotage will make you haughty and arrogant, and you will not listen to your seniors or to wise counsel. This will lead you to make unwise decisions that will take you years backward.

Beware of the spirit of sabotage. Look at your life and see the patterns that have been recurring in your life, and pray for discernment from God so that you will be able to discern where in your life the spirit of sabotage has been wreaking havoc. Then, be willing to repent of your sins and the sins of your forefathers that have opened up a doorway for the spirit of sabotage in your life. Bind the evil spirit of sabotage and every other evil spirit associated with it and command them to leave your life and your family. Cover yourself and your family with the blood of Jesus and purpose to make the necessary changes in your life and live in accordance with the Word of God.

Pray for God to change you inside out, and empower you to walk in the power of the Holy Spirit and overcome whatever roadblock the enemy tries to put in your way. Take power and authority against the spirit of sabotage and decide, with God’s power, that you will no longer allow the enemy to sabotage your life. Take power and authority against every evil agenda of the enemy. God has given us power and authority against all the power of the enemy through Jesus Christ.

Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you. Luke 10:19.

It is time to reject and disassociate from the spirit of sabotage that has been destroying your life. Reject and disassociate yourself from the spirits of envy and jealousy, low esteem, rejection, pride and haughtiness, anger, and dishonor. Pray for God to heal you from the inner wounds that have been the breeding ground of those evil spirits. Humble yourself before the Lord and submit to His lordship over your life. Choose to love others, honor them, celebrate with them, and think good thoughts about them.

When the spirit of sabotage leaves your life, the spirit of delay will also leave and you will start progressing forward. Your relationships will thrive, your business will thrive, your finances will be in order, you will get the promotion you desire, and many more doors will start opening for you. Whatever used to take you years to accomplish, you will accomplish within a short time. Frustration, confusion, broken relationships, delayed marriage, addictions, and closed doors will no longer be your portion. You will start to walk in the purpose that God created you to walk in. You will make wise decisions and stop making decisions that sabotage your life. When the spirit of sabotage leaves, you will finally embrace and walk on your God-destined path.

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The tragedy of carnal Christians

Carnality is common among Christians in the world today. Nowadays, it is very difficult to distinguish Christians from people of the world because many look the same. Their way of life is similar, their actions and speech are similar, their lifestyles are similar. If you say that you are a Christian yet someone can easily confuse you for a worldly person, then there is a big problem. The tragedy of carnal Christians.

A child of God must be different from the world. Your way of life must be different, your speech must be different, your dressing must be different, your lifestyle must be different. You should live a set-apart life. We are in the world but are not of the world. The Bible instructs us not to be conformed to this world, but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds, that we may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

It is a tragedy seeing so many Christians living like the world. Many are regular church-goers but have no personal walk with Jesus Christ. There are those who can quote many Bible verses but do not know God. Many have fallen into the trap of religiosity and have been deceived into thinking that that will take them to heaven; they forget that Jesus is the only way to God the Father. There are many who think they are Christians yet they are traveling on the wide path headed to hell. The tragedy of carnal Christians.

“These people draw near to Me with their mouth, and honor Me with their lips, but their heart is far from Me. And in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.” Matthew 15:8-9.

Do you know God personally or do you just know about Him? Do not live in deception, thinking that you are a child of God yet you are not. You need to search your heart and make sure that you are right with God. Do not be among those who live in carnality yet expect to make it to heaven; that is a great deception – the tragedy of carnal Christians. Your way of life should be a testimony that you are a child of God. Attending church is good but remember that will not save you; only Jesus Christ saves.

Many Christians dress in worldly provocative ways. Their way of dressing does not glorify God in any way. When people look at the way you dress, do they discern that you are truly of God? Others who claim to be Christians behave in ways that do not befit a Christian. They are full of curse words, have haughty and arrogant attitudes, they are full of themselves, they are sexually immoral, they live a life of show-off, and their lives are driven by the love of money. The tragedy of carnal Christians.

There are others who are on the pulpit yet their private lives are stained with sin. They can preach, teach, evangelize, and prophecy, yet live contrary to the Word of God. There are many pastors who are after selfish gains – accumulating many followers and getting rich. They are in ministry to fill their bellies, not to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ. Their involvement in the church is just a cover-up, they are wolves in sheep’s clothing. The tragedy of carnal Christians.

“Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!'” Matthew 7:22-23.

You can attend church your entire life and even be actively involved in ministry and leadership positions in the church, and yet end up in hell. God is not a respecter of persons. We are to be holy, for God is holy. God’s standard is holiness and without holiness, no one will see the Lord. Changing times and cultures do not change God’s standards. Irrespective of your nationality, culture, age, family background, life experiences, or any other thing, God expects you to live a holy life. We are to be holy inside and outside. Clean up your heart as well as your external appearance and carry yourself as a child of God.

Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; lest there be any fornicator or profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright. Hebrews 12:14-16.

It is time to repent and turn away from sin. If you have been living a carnal sinful life, pray for God to forgive you. Then, turn away from sin and start living your life in obedience to God. Say no to carnality, deny yourself, and crucify the flesh. Purpose to live a set-apart life for the honor and glory of God. Do not follow those who claim to be Christians but by their actions deny Christ. Those people are headed for destruction unless they repent. God cannot change His standards for any man.

Pray for God to open your spiritual eyes that you may see clearly. Desire and strive to be in the will of God at all times. Seek God, study and meditate on His Word, and become a doer of the Word of God. There is no shortcut to heaven. You have to do what God says and live in accordance with His Word. You cannot deceive God; your eternal destination will be determined by the type of life you lived while on earth. Whatever you sow is what you will reap. Be wise and choose to be led by the Spirit of God.

Therefore, brethren, we are debtors – not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. Romans 8:12-14.

Blessings.

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Humility

Humility is important in life. We live in a world full of proud, arrogant, and haughty people. Many people look down on others, consider themselves better, and treat others in very demeaning ways. There are many who associate humility with weakness, and in an effort to appear strong or confident, they end up becoming proud and arrogant. Arrogance has been mistaken for confidence, yet it is not. Being proud, arrogant, and haughty is easy; that is the wide path traveled by many and its end is destruction.

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Philippians 2:3.

The narrow path is difficult and very few people find it. Humility requires denying yourself and crucifying the flesh. It requires saying no to the carnal nature that seeks to elevate oneself and realizing that you are nothing without God. Humility requires acknowledging that you are a fallen human being who needs God every moment of your life. It is difficult to be humble but it is possible by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Pride is destructive. Do not be a proud person. It is very easy to become proud if you do not watch out. Many people are proud and haughty, which they use to cover up deep insecurities and hurts. In an effort to prove to others that they are good enough or better off, many people put on masks of perfection. Underneath those masks is a proud and haughty heart that is not right with God. Do not use pride to mask your wounds and hurts. Acknowledge to God that you are hurting, that people have wounded you, that you have deep-seated insecurities, and ask Him to heal and restore you.

The Bible says that pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. When you see a proud person, then know that person is on their way to downfall. Nothing good comes out of pride. God hates pride; it is sin. A haughty and proud heart is detestable in the sight of God.

As many people go up in life, they start becoming proud. They do not realize that that pride will be their downfall. Many great men have fallen to the ground because of pride. The things they were proud of disappear and they are reduced to nothing. Say no to pride.

Before destruction the heart of a man is haughty, and before honor is humility. Proverbs 18:12.

Choose the way of humility. Being humble does not take away anything from you. Humility is never a sign of weakness. It requires strength for a person to choose to humble themselves. Humility is an act of the will; it is something you choose to do. It is a heart posture whereby a person is gentle and lowly and does not seek attention to themselves. Humility arises from a person recognizing that there is nothing to be proud of in this life. We are all dust and we shall return to dust, and only what we do for God matters.

He has shown you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God? Micah 6:8.

Stop engaging in a war of words with people in an attempt to win arguments. Do not repay evil with evil. Stop being a tit-for-tat kind of person. Such behaviors are rooted in pride in an attempt to prove a point to other people. When you engage in arguments, you are attempting to show that you are not weak; do not be that kind of person. Choose to live a quiet life in humility. You have nothing to prove to people. Let your life be lived for the honor and glory of God.

By humility and the fear of the Lord are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4.

Do not be rebellious. Choose to give honor to whom honor it is due. If is there any disagreement, you can express yourself gently in a way that honors the other person. If a person tells you to do not something that is sinful or that violates your conscience, respectfully decline. You do not have to shout, do not engage in arguments, do not be loud and unruly, do not speak in a haughty and arrogant manner, do not go around gossiping, do not be hostile; rather, gentle and respectfully state your stand. In instances when you are required to do something that is not sinful, humbly submit and do it cheerfully.

Therefore as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. Colossians 3:12-13.

Submission and humility go hand in hand. It is important to recognize and honor those who are in positions of authority. That does not mean you have to agree with everything they do or say, but you choose to honor and respect their position. Honor and submission does not mean that you are inferior, and you should not consider yourself lesser than. You give people honor and respect in obedience to the Word of God. Those people in positions of authority are accountable to God and He will judge them accordingly. Fulfill your God-given role when it comes to relating with people in authority and leave the rest to God.

Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves. Romans 13:1-2.

Clothe yourself with humility. Life in this world is temporary. Do not give in to the pride of life.

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world – the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life – is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever. 1 John 2:15-17.

There is nothing to be proud of; who we are and all we have is because of God. Therefore, always give honor and glory to God. When you achieve something or hit a certain milestone in life, do not allow that to plant seeds of pride in your heart. The higher you go in life, the humbler you need to be if you want God to continue lifting you. Make the decision to be humble and let that be evident in your way of life. If you are willing to live a life of humility, God will empower you by His Spirit to do so.

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Overcoming People-Pleasing

People-pleasing is a form of bondage. A people-pleaser usually makes decisions based on other people’s opinions. The behavior of a people-pleaser is influenced by their family, friends, and society at large. People-pleasing refers to altering your behavior, words, actions, and attitudes in a way that conforms to societal expectations in an effort to be liked and avoid offending other people. Other people become your standard. People-pleasing makes you care too much about whether people like you and you most of the time seek the approval of others before doing something.

Because people-pleasers depend on others for affirmation and validation, they end up becoming very unstable. They are unable to make firm decisions and are easily tossed to and fro. People-pleasers become puppets of other people. When someone wants something done in a certain way without any opposition, they normally approach a people-pleaser. Such a person will easily go along without asking many questions.

People-pleasing goes hand in hand with naivety and simple-mindedness. When a person is simple-minded, they lack good judgment. A simple-minded person wrongly thinks that many people are good-willed. They fail to realize that the heart of man is wicked and many people are selfish and are only interested in advancing their own interests. Simple-mindedness makes a person not question the motives and intentions of others and blindly follows what other people say and where they are going.

The seed and root of people-pleasing is deep and is usually planted in childhood. Many people-pleasers did not receive the validation and acceptance they needed while they were growing up. In addition, maybe they were criticized and faced a lot of rejection. As a result, they lack identity and do not know who they are. Because of that, they start seeking validation and acceptance from people instead of looking up to God.

When you do not know who you are, you will live your life trying to please other people. That deep void within you will drive you to seek validation and worth from other people, especially from relationships. People-pleasers easily fall into the hands of manipulators and abusers because they lack a strong foundation. They did not receive the love and security they needed growing up, which resulted in them growing up with a sense of lack, a sense of not knowing who they are, and they developed extremely low esteem and low opinion of themselves.

Low esteem makes a person think that other people are better. It makes a person live in shame, become shy, and put other people on a pedestal. People struggling with low esteem and worth put themselves down and elevate other people in an unhealthy way. They do not think they are capable of doing what other people are doing. They develop false humility that makes them degrade themselves and speak low of themselves. Because of that, they are unable to live to their full potential. They end up living defeated lives, unless and until they transform their minds with the Word of God and get to know who they are in God.

Do not be a people-pleaser, that is a miserable way to live. Do not live on the opinions of other people and do not allow other people to define who you are. Stop seeking validation and acceptance from people. People will like you as long as you are giving them what they want but the moment you stop, those same people will turn their backs on you. Those people you try so hard to impress and please will be the same people gossiping about you and slandering you.

People should not dictate how you live your life; live in accordance with God’s Word, not people’s opinions. Stop seeking your worth from other people or from relationships. You have to come to a point where you know that your worth is only found in God. You may have grown in a broken home, you may not have received the acceptance and affirmation you desired, but that should not define you. The rejection you faced, the pain you endured, and the environment you grew up in should not define you. God is able to heal and restore you so that you can start living a victorious life.

Rise above the things that have been weighing you down by the power of the Holy Spirit. Search your heart and get to understand what made you reach that point of becoming a people-pleaser. Then, ask God to heal those wounds in your heart and fill you with His love. Get to know God as a Father who loves you with unconditional love. Jesus Christ died for you and set you free. Do not live like a slave; there is freedom in Jesus Christ.

Labor to become a God-pleaser. Surrender your life to God and let Him have full control. Seek to please God, not men. Many people will never be satisfied, even if you sacrifice your whole life trying to please them. People are fallen and you should never make them an idol. God has not called you to please men, He has called you to worship Him alone and live for Him. Know the difference between loving people and people-pleasing. Loving people does not mean that you do everything that people tell you to. You have to establish firm boundaries with love.

If you become a people-pleaser, people will use you and then dispose of you. They will treat you as an object and then discard you. That will then drive your esteem to even lower levels. You will start wondering why people do not appreciate all that you do for them. In the end, you will learn the hard lesson that many people are only interested in what benefits them; many do not care about other people.

Pray for wisdom from God so that you know how to live with people in a healthy way. Ask God to give you good judgment and discernment. Spend time with God praying and studying and meditating on His Word. With time your mind will be renewed and transformed and you will grow into spiritual maturity. You will be able to discern between good and evil and stand firmly on what is right and true. Reach a point where you can firmly stand your ground. As long as you know what you are doing or saying is right and true, you should not be worried about what people will say or think. Do not waver; do not change your stand in an attempt to please people.

Let your life be firmly rooted in Christ. Build your life on the firm foundation of Jesus Christ and refuse to conform to the patterns of this world. Do not be afraid of walking alone for a season. When you decide to live for God, many people will walk away from you. The moment people realize that they cannot manipulate you any longer, they will walk away or fall off. When people cannot get what they want, when they can no longer abuse you, when they realize that you now know who you are, many will choose to stay away from you. Some will start gossiping and saying that now you think you are better than them.

Do not give in to the manipulation tactics. Such are attempts to make you fall back into the trap of people-pleasing. Stand your ground. Continue living for God. Pursue holiness and righteousness. Do what pleases God, even if it is unpopular among those around you. Choose to live a set-apart life for the honor and glory of God. With time, God will bring your way people who are on the same path as you are, people with genuine love for you and for God, people with who you are equally yoked.

The only way to overcome people-pleasing is with God’s help; you cannot do it alone. It requires complete transformation from the inside out. You have to put in work into growing and becoming the person that God desires you to be. As you become transformed, you will realize that you are becoming free and your desire is to please God above all else. As you become grounded in God and get to know who you are in Him, you will be able to exercise good judgment and make firm decisions rooted in the Word of God. With time, you will be able to love people genuinely while at the same time establishing firm boundaries.

For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ. Galatians 1:10.

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Overcoming Rudeness

Rudeness is a big problem in the world today. We live in a world full of rude people, including Christians. Rudeness refers to lack of courtesy, lack of manners, disrespect, incivility, impertinence. Rudeness is when a person treats another in a manner that degrades and puts down that person. Rudeness can be expressed in words, actions, or attitudes.

A rude person is a person who is yet to fully submit their life to Christ. Rudeness destroys your witness as a Christian. When a person is rude, that is a reflection that their heart is not right. It is a fruit of the flesh and is a sign of deep-rooted heart issues. Maybe that person is hurt and is speaking from an unforgiving heart, maybe the person struggles with low esteem and they try to compensate that inner void by being rude.

When people are wounded or have deep inner struggles, they tend to put on masks or develop defense mechanisms, one of them being rudeness. A rude person is a wounded person, it is a person struggling with sin, it is a person with deep voids. Sadly, instead of surrendering to God and seeking Him for healing and restoration, many people use carnal methods to deal with their struggles.

Love and rudeness do not go hand in hand. The Bible tells us that love is not rude. When you act in a rude manner, it shows you do not know love and neither do you know the source of love, that is, God. God is love, He is the author of love, and if you are truly a child of God, you will walk in love, and you will be able to love even your enemies. Acting out in a rude manner shows that you have issues in your heart that are yet to be fully surrendered to God.

Regardless of what people say to you or how they treat you, you can choose to respond in love. Just because people have sinned against you does not give you an excuse to be rude. Do not be a rude Christian; do not be the reason that the name of God is blasphemed among the people of the world. Choose the high road and never repay evil with evil. Never do unto others as they do to you, instead, do to them as you would like done to you.

Deny yourself and crucify the flesh. Crucify that part of you that has made you act out in a rude manner. Search your heart and pray for God to heal any wounds that are still lingering in your heart. Pray for God to transform you from the inside out so that you live your life in a Christ-like manner. Do not copy the behaviors of the world. Learn from Jesus Christ and follow in His footsteps.

For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps: “Who committed no sin, nor was deceit found in His mouth”; who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously; who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness – by whose stripes you were healed. 1 Peter 2:21-24.

Pray for God to deliver you and set you free from the spirit of rudeness. Set a guard over your mouth and watch your actions and attitudes. Do not behave in a manner that ruins your witness as a Christian. Do not be proud, haughty, or arrogant. Stop engaging in carnal wars and realize that the battles we fight are spiritual. Spiritual battles cannot be won in the flesh. If you want to win, then put on the full armor of God.

Nothing good comes out of being rude. People will just look at you and laugh, and start wondering if you are even a Christian. There are people who will provoke you intentionally in order to see how you react. Then when you react in a carnal way, they will go and gossip about you and start calling you a hypocrite. Some will say that if that is how Christians act, then they do not want anything to do with Christianity.

Beware. Do not fall into the traps of the devil. The enemy will use people to provoke you so that you end up falling into sin. Do not be ignorant of the devices of the enemy. Do not underestimate the extent to which the enemy can go in an attempt to make you fall. That is why you need to be firmly rooted in Jesus Christ at all times. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

Regardless of how much people try to provoke you, choose to respond in love while establishing firm boundaries. Do not fall into the trap of behaving in a rude manner. Tame your tongue, be careful about how you act and respond, and beware of your attitude at all times. Do not slumber because the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Submit to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you.

Choose to be kind, gentle, humble, and tenderhearted. People may think that you are weak, but always remember, that is not weakness, it is strength. Being rude, arrogant, proud, haughty is the easy and wide path to take, but its end is destruction. On the other hand, being loving, kind, gentle, and humble requires a lot of denying yourself and crucifying the flesh; it is a narrow and difficult path but its end is eternal life with God. You have a choice; choose well.

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Do Not Be A Haughty Christian

Haughtiness is a condition of the heart whereby people elevate themselves and consider themselves better than others. A haughty person is proud and arrogant. Haughtiness makes it difficult for a person to accept correction and instruction. Haughty people think that they know better, that they are better people, that they have better ideas, that their way of life is better, and carry an aura of self-importance. Such are egotistical, condescending, disdainful, contemptuous, and full of mockery. Do not be a haughty Christian.

The Bible warns against haughtiness. We are told that before destruction the heart of a man is haughty and before honor is humility. Haughtiness is destructive. A haughty attitude will bring you down very fast. Haughty people have no regard for God. They do not think that they need Him in their lives. Such think that they can do things with their own strength; what a sad way to live. People who attempt to live life their own way using their own strength do not go far. They soon fall and fall hard.

Guard your heart against haughtiness; it is sin before the Lord. God hates sin. A haughty heart is detestable in the eyes of God. It is sad to see created beings elevate themselves above their Creator. God created man to worship Him and it is sad to see that many have gone out of the way and live for themselves and for things of this world. Many do not recognize God, they think they are okay and that they are in charge of their lives. What they do not understand is that they are on the way to hell, unless they repent and change their ways.

God loves humility. Those who humble themselves under the mighty hand of God are exalted in due time. A humble person acknowledges their full dependence on God. They understand that they need God every moment of their lives. Such do not rely on their own strength but look up to Jesus Christ as their source of everything. Worshipping God in truth and spirit requires us to approach Him with a humble heart. That is when we are able to surrender fully to God and let Him take over and allow His perfect will to prevail.

By humility and the fear of the Lord are riches and honor and life. Do not follow the way of the haughty and the proud; that only leads to shame, downfall, and destruction. Choose to clothe yourself with humility. If you want God to lift you up, choose the way of humility and fear the Lord your God. Do not listen to those who call you weak, or foolish, or those who look down on you. Continue moving in the direction God is leading you towards in total submission to Him. With time, as God lifts you up, those who despised you will come to see that God was indeed with you.

But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are, that no flesh should glory in His presence. But of Him you are in Christ Jesus, who became for us wisdom from God – and righteousness and sanctification and redemption – that, as it is written, “He who glories, let him glory in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 1:27-31.

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The Sin Of Pride

Pride is destructive. Lucifer was cast out of heaven because of pride; he rebelled and wanted to be like God.

How you are fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! How you are cut down to the ground, you who weakened the nations! For you have said in your heart: ‘I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God; I will also sit on the mount of the congregation on the farthest sides of the north; I will ascend above the heights of the clouds, I will be like the Most High.’ Yet you shall be brought down to Sheol, to the lowest depths of the Pit.” Isaiah 14:12-15.

The Bible says that pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. Nothing good comes out of pride; it is sin in the eyes of God. Too many people are consumed with pride. Many have become proud because of riches, fame, beauty, power, and such. Their hearts have become puffed up and they view themselves as untouchables. Such live for themselves with no regard for God.

The Lord of hosts has purposed it, to bring to dishonor the pride of all glory, to bring into contempt all the honorable of the earth. Isaiah 23:9.

God hates pride. Pride makes a person become unable to take correction and instruction in accordance with the Word of God. Proud people think of themselves more highly than they ought to, they start thinking that they are above others. As a result, they treat other people with contempt and step on others on their way up. They seem to forget that choices have consequences and people reap what they sow.

These six things the Lord hates, yes, seven are an abomination to Him: A proud look, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that are swift in running to evil, a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren. Proverbs 6:16-19.

If you struggle with pride, pray for God to forgive you and transform you from the inside out. Pride destroys relationships, it destroys lives. It leads to the wide destructive path that ends up in hell. God does not use proud people. A proud heart cannot worship God in truth and in spirit. The Bible says that the Lord Almighty has a day in store for all the proud and lofty, for all that is exalted, and they will be humbled.

Choose to humble yourself before the Lord, and He will lift you up. Humility is not weakness. Many people think being humble will make them appear weak, but that is not so. When you are humble and allow God to take over, you get to experience His power and He fights your battles. You should not engage in carnal wars; the fruit of such is sin and destruction. Instead, surrender your life to God and obey His commandments in every area of your life; that is where true strength is found.

Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. Colossians 3:12-13.

Do not glory in your wisdom, or might, or riches. Such things are temporary and will pass away. Do not boast because of your accomplishments, your looks, your family, or any worldly thing. Instead, remain humble and always give the glory back to God. God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.

Thus says the Lord: “Let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, let not the mighty man glory in his might, nor let the rich man glory in his riches; but let him who glories glory in this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord, exercising lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness in the earth. For in these I delight,” says the Lord. Jeremiah 9:23-24.

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Importance Of Self-Control

Self-control is the ability to hold back and respond to situations in the appropriate manner. It is the ability to have control over your emotions, words, attitudes, and actions and not react impulsively. Self-control is very important in life, especially for a Christian. Without self-control, you will live a careless and impulsive life and you will end up making unwise decisions that have severe consequences. Lack of self-control means you are being led by the flesh and you are submitting to carnal desires.

I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. Galatians 5:16-18.

A Christian without self-control becomes a stumbling block to people in the world. If you profess to be a Christian yet lack self-control, people will start wondering if that is how Christianity is and many will be put off because of you. Let your life be a testimony that you are a true child of God by living a godly life and bearing good fruit. Self-control is part of the fruit of the Holy Spirit. When you die to the flesh and submit yourself to God, with time you will start to bear much fruit.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23.

Patience and self-control go hand in hand. When a person becomes impatient about something, they also tend to lose control of themselves. It is important to learn how to be patient in life and wait patiently upon the Lord. Getting impatient will drive you into taking matters into your own hands and you will end up getting out of God’s plan and God’s timing for you. When things do not seem to be going how you would like, choose to step back and seek God on the way forward. Do not react in the flesh because if you do, you give the enemy a foothold into your life. The Bible says that a person who lacks self-control is like a city whose walls are broken through, and better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.

Learn to set a guard over your mouth; not everything needs to be said. If you are provoked, choose not to react emotionally and take time to think things over. Only speak what is edifying and what glorifies God. Many people have sinned against God because of their mouths. Too many people, including Christians, engage in a war of words and in the process bring dishonor to the name of the Lord. Choose to be set apart and honor God in every area of your life.

The lips of fools bring them strife, and their mouths invite a beating. The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives. Proverbs 18:6-7.

He who guards his mouth preserves his life, but he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction. Proverbs 13:3.

Pay close attention to your actions and your attitudes. It is important to have self-control in what you do and how you carry yourself. Do not live a carnal life yet at the same time claiming with your mouth that you are a Christian. Be led by the Spirit of God and submit all you do unto the Lord. There are things a Christian should not engage in. Stop following the crowd or what the majority are doing and choose to follow Jesus Christ. It is better to be seen as the odd one out but be right with God. Do not engage in carnal behaviors that people of the world are pursuing.

Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21.

Develop emotional control. Learning how to control your emotions will help you live a stable life that is not dependent on outside circumstances. Many people tend to lose emotional control and have outbursts of anger; that is not behavior befitting a Christian. Developing emotional control requires you to be self-aware and work on those things that trigger you. Many people have unhealed wounds dating back to childhood and because those areas are still raw, any slight provocation triggers an emotional outburst. Ask God to search your heart and heal those wounds you have carried with you for years. Once healed, the things that used to trigger you lose their power. God is able to forgive, heal, and restore you; trust in Him and surrender your life to Him.

Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:23-24.

If you are struggling with self-control, take that area of your life to the Lord. Pray for God to help you and empower you by His Spirit to live a self-controlled life. Transform your mind by feeding it with the Word of God. Stand on the Word of God and let it guide you in the way you live your life. Meditate on good things and with time your words, actions, and attitudes will align with your new way of thinking.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things. Philippians 4:8.

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Overcoming Anger

The Bible says, be angry and do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil. We live in a world full of angry people. Many people have been wounded in life and have turned on to anger as a defense mechanism. Others say that being angry is in their nature and use that as an excuse to continue in their sinful ways. Sadly, we also have Christians who are quick-tempered, full of hatred and bitterness in their hearts.

Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9.

Anger is a sign of deeper heart issues in people. When a person has angry outbursts, it shows they lack self-control, it is a sign of impatience and shows that person is led by the flesh. Angry people have many internal wounds that are yet to be surrendered to God. Reacting in anger ruins your witness for Christ. If you are a Christian and yet you still struggle with anger, you end up becoming a stumbling block to other people.

He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly. Proverbs 14:29.

The fruit of anger is evil. Nothing good comes out of uncontrolled anger and lashing out. Anger opens a doorway for the enemy into your life. The devil uses that door to come into your life and destroy you. When you react in sinful anger, only the devil wins. In anger, people have caused destruction in their lives and in other people’s lives. Many people have said things in anger that they come to regret later. Others have done things in anger that have produced severe consequences in their own lives and in the lives of other people.

Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret – it only causes harm. Psalm 37:8.

Many families and friendships have been destroyed because of anger. A person who reacts in anger finds it difficult to make and keep friends. In anger, words are spoken and actions done that leave deep wounds in people’s hearts. An angry person stirs up conflict and ends up committing many sins. Do not make friendship with an angry person.

Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go, lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul. Proverbs 22:24-25.

Do not be a person who gives full vent to your rage. Pray for wisdom and learn how to hold back and respond to situations calmly. When a person provokes you, choose to respond with love. Stop arguing with people or trying to prove a point; that is usually rooted in pride. Tit-for-tat behavior that is so common in the world is not of God, it comes from the flesh. Stop engaging in carnal fights that only feed the flesh. Instead, choose to die to self and respond to all situations in a way that honors God. Learn from Jesus Christ, who, when reviled, did not revile in return, when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to God who judges righteously.

So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20.

Pray for patience and understanding. The Bible says that it is better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city. Patience and self-control are great values to have in your life as a Christian. When you abide in Christ, with time the fruit of the Holy Spirit starts manifesting in your life, part of which is patience and self-control. Self-control will help you to hold back and respond to situations in wisdom. Patience will help you to wait on God to intervene and stop taking matters into your own hands.

Instead of lashing out, pray for God to empower you to respond calmly and gently. Gentleness is a strength, not a weakness. Do not be one of those people who are quickly provoked. In certain situations, it is better to stay quiet; do not engage in arguments and quarrels. Be wise and choose to overlook offenses.

But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. Colossians 3:8.

Do not allow anger to lead you to hell. If your heart is stained with the sin of anger, pray for Jesus Christ to wash you with His blood. Pray for God to heal those wounds in your heart that produce the evil fruit of anger and wrath in your life. Ask God to uproot all the roots of anger from your heart by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32.

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The blessings of the Lord maketh rich

The one who God blesses is blessed indeed. When God blesses, the blessings come with peace and joy, and there is no sorrow associated with them. When you learn to wait patiently upon the Lord, and surrender to His will and His best for you, then with time you will reap good fruits and get to experience His blessings in a special way. Regardless of what you are believing in God for, know that He is more than able to do it for you in accordance with His will. Do not get impatient; impatience will lead you to try doing things your way, and in the process, you will end up missing out on God’s perfect will for you. Patiently wait upon the Lord and in His timing He will make everything beautiful.

Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord! Psalm 27:14.

Jabez prayed for God to bless him, and God listened and answered his prayers.

Now Jabez was more honorable than his brothers, and his mother called his name Jabez, saying, “Because I bore him in pain.” And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, “Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!” So God granted him what he requested. 1 Chronicles 4:9-10.

There are many who try to do things their way. Out of impatience or greed, many have chosen destructive paths. There are many who have decided to use whatever means is available to them to achieve what they want in life. Many have used corrupt and evil ways to achieve worldly riches, fame, or power. Sadly, there are those who have made worldly things their god. Many are driven by the desire for worldly recognition, the praise of men, money, and power. In an effort to achieve such, they have ended up compromising in great ways.

For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. 1 Timothy 6:10.

We are living in the last days, and unless we remain vigilant and alert, it is easy to be carried away by the pleasures and cares of this world. Many who started off well have sadly fallen off along the way. They have allowed the cares of the world to drive them away from the right path. They are like the seed that fell among thorns, whereby the thorns grew up and choked them, and yielded no crop.

Now these are the ones sown among the thorns; they are the ones who hear the word, and the cares of this world, the deceitfulness of riches, and the desires for other things entering in choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful. Mark 4:18-19.

Anything done or acquired the wrong way does not last, neither does it bring joy. If there is anything that you desire in life but you have to acquire it the wrong way, then it is time that you realize that that thing is not worth it. If acquiring something in life would necessitate you to compromise, then that thing should not be in your life and neither is it God’s will for you. Learn to live life in a God-honoring way without compromise. Never compromise your relationship with God in an attempt to get something or someone; it is not worth it.

A little that a righteous man has is better than the riches of many wicked. Psalm 37:16.

If something is God’s will for you, then it will happen in the right manner. There will be no compromise involved. Many miss out on God’s will because they are not willing to wait. Many think that they have to ‘help God out’. Many fear that if they do not do something, then they will not get what they want. They then end up getting outside God’s will and God’s timing, and sadly pay a heavy price for that. Nothing good comes out of disobeying God. Many have paid a heavy price for their disobedience, including losing their lives.

King Saul paid a heavy price because of his impatience and disobedience towards God.

So Samuel said: “Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed than the fat of rams.” 1 Samuel 15:22.

The devil has deceived many with counterfeits. He has promised many money and fame, and sadly many have fallen into his trap. After getting the money and the fame, they eventually come to realize that it was all part of the devil’s evil plan to lead them astray and many have lost their souls. Anything done or acquired the wrong way leads to pain and it is never worth it. Many have used evil means to acquire the money, fame, power, recognition, or human praise they craved, but instead of such things becoming a blessing, they end up becoming a source of great pain in their lives. Many have realized the hard way that things of the world do not satisfy, neither do they bring peace or joy.

For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? Mark 8:36-37.

The only source of true contentment, joy, and peace in life is Jesus Christ; there is no other way. It is better to have little with righteousness than much gain with injustice. You have to reach a point in your life whereby you desire only what God wants for you and in His timing. If you want to become a blessed person, then be a person who obeys God in every area of your life. When God blesses you, those blessings will become a source of great joy in your life.

The blessing of the Lord makes one rich, and He adds no sorrow with it. Proverbs 10:22.

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Finishing is better than starting

The Bible says that the end of a matter is better than its beginning. We need to be careful that we do not start well but end the wrong way. There are many people who started off well but along the way fall off. Our walk with God is a daily walk; we have to choose daily to follow Christ and obey God. We have to purpose to do what is right and true and work out our own salvation with fear and trembling. We really never “arrive” in our journey of faith until we leave this world. As such, we are to remain sober-minded and be watchful so that we do not miss the mark along the way.

The end of a thing is better than its beginning; the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit. Ecclesiastes 7:8.

Be sober, be vigilant, because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 1 Peter 5:8.

There are many people who confess to be Christians yet their way of life proves otherwise. There are many church-goers who have no personal walk with the Lord. Many have fallen into the trap of religiosity and have forgotten that it is not doing all the religious things that will take them to heaven; it is Jesus Christ who is the way to God the Father. Many who profess to be Christians live a carnal life to the extent that they cannot be differentiated from the world. Sadly, many will hear on that Day, “I never knew you.”

Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’ Matthew 7:21-23.

There are others who start off hot for Jesus Christ but along the way they get entangled with the pleasures and cares of the world. Many who were faithful servants of Jesus Christ have fallen off along the way. Some have been ensnared by money and riches and have become lovers of money and what money can buy. Their hearts have been diverted from their first love, Jesus Christ. Money in itself is not bad but the moment a person makes pursuit of money and riches their top priority, then they end up turning money into their god. Anything or anyone that we place above God in our lives becomes an idol.

Now he who received the seed among the thorns is he who hears the word, and the cares of this world and the deceitfulness of riches choke the word, and he becomes unfruitful. Matthew 13:22.

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in Him. For all that is in the world – the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life – is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever. 1 John 2:15-17.

Pride has led to the downfall of many. When a heart becomes haughty, arrogant, and full of pride, that is usually the start of downfall of such a person. God hates pride. There are many who start off humble but once they get lifted up, they become haughty. Such start seeing themselves as above others and they look down on others. Pride makes a person not heed to correction and instruction. It makes a person think that they are above correction and because of that they end up continuing in their error. When a person reaches that point where they do not listen to anything, even when corrected with love in accordance with God’s Word, then they start going down a destructive path.

A man’s pride will bring him low, but the humble in spirit will retain honor. Proverbs 29:23.

Hear instruction and be wise, and do not disdain it. Proverbs 8:33.

We need to remain humble before the Lord. When we err, we are to be humble enough to admit and confess our mistakes or sins, and when we do, God is merciful enough to forgive us. God loves a humble heart. Let us not be people who stubbornly refuse to ask for forgiveness or acknowledge our wrongs. Instead, may we people who are meek, who ask for forgiveness and acknowledge our wrongs, and repent before the Lord.

When David sinned, he humbled himself before God and repented.

So David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” And Nathan said to David, “The Lord also has put away your sin; you shall not die.” 2 Samuel 12:13.

If protecting your public image is more important to you than being right with God, then woe unto you. Sadly, there are many people who are driven by the desire to be famous, or to be liked and accepted by people, or to gain people’s approval. Such end up going to great extents to protect their image and how they are perceived by people. In an effort to gain people’s praise, validation, and acceptance, many have ended up veering off the narrow path. Many have sold their souls to the devil in an attempt to be famous or rich; what an extremely unwise decision to make. The human soul is priceless; it took the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to save us from eternal condemnation.

For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? Mark 8:36-37.

We need to understand that the devil does not care about us; his only aim is to kill, steal, and destroy. Do not trade eternity with fleeting things of the world; if you do, you can be sure that you will regret it.

The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. John 10:10.

Never think that you are too strong a Christian that you can never fall; that is pride. We are fully dependent on God, and without Him, we would be destroyed. Thank God for His grace and mercy. If you know what is right and true, then do it. Never put yourself in a position where you willingly sin against the Lord, and never take the grace of God for granted.

Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. 1 Corinthians 10:12.

Many have sadly compromised their relationship with God in order to meet their carnal desires. Many, knowing very well what God’s Word says about their particular situation, have chosen to disobey God, and sadly have paid a great price because of that. If achieving what you desire is more important to you than obeying God, then sadly you have made that desire an idol, and if you choose to continue pursuing it outside of God’s will, then when you finally get it, it will become like a snare and an agent of pain and destruction in your life.

Anything done or acquired outside of God’s will is never worth it. If you have to disobey God in order to achieve anything in life, then that is a big red flag that what you are pursuing is not God’s will. Even things or people that appear seemingly nice on the outside can be like a trap for you; if you have to go outside of God in order to acquire them, then you can be sure it will end in pain and destruction, unless you repent.

Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. Psalm 37:4-6.

Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts shall be established. Proverbs 16:3.

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33.

When something is God’s will, then it aligns with His Word and is acquired in a right and true manner. We need to learn to submit our desires unto the Lord and only desire to have what God wants for us. If something is not of God, then it is not worth it and you should not desire to have it in your life. No matter how attractive an offer or an opportunity or a person is, if that is not God’s will for you and does not align with His Word, then have nothing to do with that thing or that person. We have to reach a point where we make the decision to obey God in everything no matter the personal cost to us. Do not be among those who start well but fall off along the way. Desire and pursue to be among the few who start well and end even better. Run the race of faith well to the very end and keep the faith.

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Finally, there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also to all who have loved His appearing. 2 Timothy 4:7-8.

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Do not avenge yourself; God will repay

We live in a fallen world, and we can be sure that at some point we will meet people who will hurt us, offend us, and sin against us. People usually lean towards sin since birth, until and unless they encounter Jesus Christ, who empowers us by His Spirit to live a life that is pleasing to Him.  The inherent sinful nature of human beings means that we cannot escape pain and suffering that is part of our lives here on earth.

Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin my mother conceived me. Psalm 51:5.

In this world we will face many trials and tribulations. We will face natural disasters, accidents, diseases, loses of all types, persecution, pain, and heartache. There are people who will hurt us unintentionally, and there are those who will maliciously hurt us on purpose. We will encounter injustice, setbacks, unfulfilled desires and expectations, and there are many times when things will not go as we had planned. We will meet people who will rise against us for no valid reasons, including members of our own families, people will abandon us and walk away, friendships will be broken, and we will meet people who will betray us in one way or the other. These, and much more, is part of what we will encounter in the journey of life in this world. However, no matter what comes our way, there is hope in Jesus Christ.

These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world. John 16:33.

There is a time and a season for everything. In this world, we followers of Christ cannot exclude ourselves from the world. There is a time that is coming when we will live with God in heaven for eternity where sin does not exist. However, for now, we live in a sin-laden world. As children of God, we are to be the light of the world and salt of the earth. We do our part and live a life that glorifies God and stand firmly on His Word, and we preach the gospel to the lost. However, we cannot force people to repent. Eventually, salvation is a personal decision, and also it is God who draws people to Himself. Some people will not repent even when presented with the truth. Having done our part, we leave the rest to God. A time is coming when those who reject Jesus Christ will face righteous judgement from God.

Another parable He put forth to them, saying: “The Kingdom of heaven is like a man who sowed good seed in his field; but while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat and went his way. But when the grain had sprouted and produced a crop, then the tares also appeared. So the servants of the owner came and said to him, ‘Sir, did you not sow good seed in your field? How then does it have tares?’ He said to them, ‘An enemy has done this.’ The servants said to him, ‘Do you want us then to go and gather them up?’ But he said, ‘No, lest while you gather up the tares you also uproot the wheat with them. Let both grow together until the harvest, and at the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, ‘First gather together the tares and bind them in bundles to burn them, but gather the wheat into my ban.’ ” Matthew 13:24-30.

When people hurt us and sin against us, it is hard to hold back and not do to them as they have done unto us. It is hard not to repay evil with evil, but with God’s power, it becomes possible to repay evil with good. The fallen human nature seeks to revenge, it seeks to have its own way, it seeks to inflict pain on those who have inflicted pain on us, it seeks to do to others like they have done unto us. The easy way is following the wide path, but that only ends up in destruction. The easy way is to avenge ourselves, but that only leads to more pain, bitterness, rage, hostility, animosity, and all other types of sin. Vengeance is not Christ-like and does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Seeking revenge leads to sin and never makes the situation better. Do not be ‘an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth’ type of person; that does not please God and neither does it glorify Him.

You have heard it said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also. And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away. Matthew 5:38-42.

It seems weak to turn the other cheek when someone does you wrong, but it actually takes a lot of strength, and that is the high road to take, the narrow path that pleases God and eventually leads to eternal life. It takes a lot of self-control not to curse those who curse you, not to hit those who hit you, not to betray those who betray you, not to slander those who slander you, not to gossip about those who gossip about you, not to hurt those who hurt you, not to cheat on those who cheat on you, and not to repay with evil those who do evil against you; such takes the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus Christ set a great example for us concerning how we are to deal with those who are against us.

You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes the sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect. Matthew 5:43-48. 

For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps: Who committed no sin, nor was deceit found in His mouth; who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously; who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness – by whose stripes you were healed. For you were like sheep going astray, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls. 1 Peter 2:21-25.

During our journey in life we will encounter pain and heartache. We will meet people who will treat us in unjust and evil manner. During such times, may we never be tempted to avenge ourselves. Vengeance belongs to the Lord. It is not our position to avenge ourselves when people hurt us or sin against us. It is difficult by human standards to forgive, let go, and allow God to take over and take care of whatever situation we are going through, but it is possible by the power of the Holy Spirit. May God give us self-control and may we learn to always step back and allow God to have His way.

The Bible says, in your anger, do not sin, and do not give place to the devil. Remember, man’s anger does not produce the righteousness of God. If what the other person has done against you is illegal, go through the right legal channels, but remember that even if you do not get justice on earth, there is God in heaven who will bring all to justice with righteous judgement. Eventually, we are all answerable to God. Someone might think that they have escaped the justice of the world, but let every one of us never forget that we cannot escape the righteous judgement of God; God is a God of justice. We are in the race of faith, may we learn to patiently endure to the very end, looking up to Jesus Christ, the author and finisher of our faith.

Repay no evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. Romans 12:17-19.

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They love the praise of men more than the praise of God

There are people who value the praise and validation of people to such an extent that they end up compromising their relationship with God. This world has many cares and pleasures, and if we are not careful, it is very easy to get carried away. At times we can get so immersed in the pursuit of things of this world to the extent that we forget to prioritize our relationship with God. Pursuing to grow in our careers, pursuing better relationships, and pursuing to grow in life in general is good, but it should never come above God in our lives. Anything or anyone we place above God becomes an idol. The moment we start pursuing anything or anyone else more than God, we are automatically saying that that thing or that person is more important to us than God; may it never be so with us.

But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: for men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! 2 Timothy 3:1-5.

Pursuit of money, fame, people’s acceptance and validation, and such like have sadly taken many captive. Some people who started off well in their Christian walk have fallen off along the way. Many have entangled themselves with the cares, trends, and pleasures of this world and have ended up compromising. There are many who would rather be right with people than with God. Many have sadly traded eternal life with the fleeting things of this world; this is not worth it. Nothing in the world can compare to the value of a human soul. Many people take the reality of eternal condemnation casually, and some do not even believe that hell exists. Sadly, if they die in their unrepentant state, they will come to find out the hard way that everything written in God’s Word is true.

But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves with many sorrows. 1 Timothy 6:9-10.

We all fall short time and time again. When we do, we should be willing to humbly repent before God and confess our sins, and when we do that, we are assured that God will forgive us in Christ Jesus our Lord. The Bible says that if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. However, for some people, pride takes root in their hearts and they harden their hearts. When they fall short and sin, they are not willing to humble themselves and seek forgiveness; some see that as being weak, and allow their pride to take them down the destructive path. There are people who become haughty and arrogant and try to maintain a positive image before people, instead of repenting. Such would rather be praised by men and maintain their superficial positive image, but at the expense of their relationship with God; woe unto those who choose that destructive path.

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, a broken and a contrite heart – these, O God, You will not despise. Psalm 51:17.

Many people will praise you today but tomorrow they will be talking about you behind your back. Many will be for you today but tomorrow they will be against you. Human beings have a fallen and sinful nature, and the moment we start living off the praises of people, that is the moment when we start going downhill. When pride takes root in a person’s heart, that is the beginning of downfall. Many will praise you as long as they benefit from you in some way, but the moment they realize that you are no longer beneficial to them, they will act like they have never even known you. Getting validation from people is a slippery road to travel with a surety of downfall. That is like building a house on sandy ground, and when the storms of life blow, you can be sure that house will fall down.

Thus says the Lord: Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart departs from the Lord. For he shall be like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see when good comes, but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land which is not inhabited. Jeremiah 17:5-6.

Your life should not be lived for people’s approval. You cannot please people no matter how hard you try. Some will be offended by you even after you have done your best to please them. Sacrificing your faith in order to be right with people is a very unwise decision to make. Protecting your own image and public opinion at the expense of your walk with God is sure to cause regret and pain. There is nothing and no one more important in this life than Jesus Christ. God should be your everything, for when you have God, you really do have everything, but without God, no matter how prosperous you become in this life, in the end, you will lose everything, including your life.

For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10.

Live your life for the honor and glory of God. It is better to be rejected by people but be right with God. It is better to appear weak before men but be accepted by God. It is better to lose everything that the world has to offer, but gain God and eternal life. Seek to please God only. Put your faith and trust in God alone. Fix your eyes firmly on Jesus Christ. Never compromise for anything or anyone in this world, and do not conform to the patterns of this world. Do not allow pride to take root in your heart; remain humble, teachable, and willing to take correction and instruction that is in alignment with the Word of God. Never elevate human approval, validation, acceptance, and opinions of people above God; such mean nothing if eventually a person loses their soul in hell.

If the world hates you, you know that it hated Me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own. Yet because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. John 15:18-19.

Do not love the praises of people more than the praise of God. We are living in evil days. There are many people who have a form of godliness but deny the power thereof, and many who appear godly on the outside but they do not know Jesus Christ. Do not lust after the world and its things, for that has led many to destruction. Do not allow pride to take root in your heart; that makes a person elevate themselves and become unwilling to take correction and instruction. Do not walk the destructive path of seeking the praise and validation of people, because in the process, you will end up compromising your relationship with God.

May we all set our priorities right, and realize that God is more important than anything this world has to offer. May we be people who humble ourselves before the Lord, repent when we sin, ask for forgiveness when we hurt people, acknowledge our shortcomings, and pursue peace with everyone as much as it depends on us. Let us seek to please God above all else.

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world – the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life – is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever. 1 John 2:15-17.

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Peace in the midst of life’s storms

Storms are part of life. Life in this world is not smooth. We live in a fallen world full of fallen human beings. Since the fall of Adam, human beings are born with a sinful nature. We have a propensity towards sin since birth, until we encounter Jesus Christ.

During our life on earth, we will face trials and tribulations. Storms of life come in many forms; diseases and illnesses, natural disasters, accidents, persecution from other people, failed relationships, abuse and misuse by other people, heartbreaks and hurts, losses of different types, and such like. Do not be surprised when storms hit, rather, always be prepared, and know Who to run to.

No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. 1 Corinthians 10:13.

When storms hit, people respond in different ways. Some are shocked, others panic, others are full of worry and anxiety, others turn to other people, others turn to addictions, but the wise turn to God. Fear is rampant in the world today. When something unexpected comes up, people get fearful and go into self-preservation mode. In an effort to self-preserve, many end up behaving in ways that are unloving towards their neighbor.

The selfishness of human nature becomes evident during times of crisis, where many people do what is in their best interest, without considering those around. At times people unite to get rid of the crisis, but that unity can also be fueled by selfish interests or in order to get human praise and validation. It is good to come together and help each other, but let our motivation come from a place of love for God’s glory.

Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, and whose hope is the Lord. For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters, which spreads out its roots by the river, and will not fear when heat comes; but its leaf will be green, and will not be anxious in the year of drought, nor will cease from yielding fruit. Jeremiah 17:7-8.

Take heed that you do not do your charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them. Otherwise you have no reward from your Father in heaven. Therefore, when you do a charitable deed, do not sound a trumpet before you as the hypocrites in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory from men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will Himself reward you openly. Matthew 6:1-4.

It is possible to have peace in the midst of life’s storms. This type of peace only comes from God, and is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. Outer turmoil in the world should not translate into inner turmoil in our hearts. Even when everyone around us is fearful, anxious, full of worry and in panic, we can remain peaceful. This does not mean that we are ignorant of what is going on around us, on the contrary, we are fully aware, but we place our trust in the Lord. We are to fix our eyes on Jesus Christ, and when we do, we are able to remain grounded, even when everything around us is falling apart. Jesus Christ is our hope, He is our security, He is our safe place, He is our Rock and fortress, and because of this, we are not moved even when storms rage.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23.

You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because He trusts in You. Trust in the Lord forever, for in the Lord Jehovah, is everlasting strength. Isaiah 26:3-4.

Worry and anxiety come when we remove our eyes from Jesus. When we stop looking upon God and fix our eyes on our circumstances and on what is going on around the world, our hearts become troubled and we start to panic. We start concentrating on how bad the situation is, and we end up forgetting how big and powerful God is. We have to remember that there is no storm too big that God cannot calm, there is no disease too deadly that God cannot heal us from, there is no plague too big that God cannot protect us from, and there is nothing in this world that God cannot shelter, protect, deliver, and save us from. Our faith should always be in the Lord, and not on people, not on the government, not on technology, not on science or anything else of this world.

Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-2.

The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I will call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised; so shall I be saved from my enemies. Psalm 18:2-3.

We tend to become restless when we are too concerned about the outcome and timing of events in our lives. When we expect things to work out a certain way but they do not, we end up becoming worried and then try to force things to work out the way we want. When we expect something to happen by a certain time and in a certain way, then we set up ourselves for heartache, worry, anxiety, pain, and fear-based reactions. The best way to live is by surrendering to God and allowing His will to prevail in our lives. We have to realize that God’s will is the perfect will, and His way is the best way. God knows best and He works out all things for our good and for His glory. Do not be focused on trying to have your way, if you do that, you will find yourself restless, anxious, emotionally unstable, and you may even become physically sick. Learn to rest in God and submit to His will and His timing. In His timing, God makes everything beautiful.

As for God, His way is perfect; the Word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him. Psalm 18:30.

My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him. He only is my rock and my salvation; He is my defense; I shall not be moved. In God is my salvation and my glory; the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God. Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us. Selah. Psalm 62:5-8.

Let the peace of God guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus. The peace that God gives is not dependent on our circumstances, rather, even when our circumstances are chaotic, we still experience the peace of God. With God, we are able to experience peace even in the midst of life’s storms. Peace comes by placing our trust in the Lord at all times and standing on the promises of God. We know Christ is our hope, and that no matter what happens, we are sure that God will never leave us nor forsake us in Christ Jesus our Lord. Know your identity in God. As children of God, we are to be set-apart from the world. When the world is running up and down, we are able to remain calm because we know who our Father is.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7. 

Work on growing closer to God, study the Word of God, pray without ceasing, and pursue peace with all men, as well as holiness and righteousness. When we are right with God and are living our lives for the honor and glory of God in obedience to His Word, and are being led by the Holy Spirit, then we really have nothing to fear or worry about. The people who should be worried are those who live for themselves to satisfy their own carnal desires. Those living in sin have everything to be worried about, because if they die in that state, they will end up in hell. Because of that, we as children of God are to be the light and salt to this dark world, and should never conform to the patterns of the world. Let the world come to us and seek to find out the reason for our hope.

We know all things work out together for good to them that love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. We do not fear even death; we know even if and when we die, we will go to heaven and live with God for eternity. To live is Christ, to die is gain. Live for Christ all the days of your life, and when the day comes to leave this world, know you will inherit eternal life. With God, it is always a win-win.

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep His commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgement, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil. Ecclesiastes 12:13-14.

The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe. Proverbs 18:10.

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In the last days people will be lovers of self

We are living in the last days. The Bible makes it clear how the last days will be, and much of what was prophesied is coming to pass. Everything written in the Scripture will eventually come to pass. God’s Word is true and never changes. As believers in Christ Jesus, we are to be guided by God’s Word and led by the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit of God guides us into all truth and reveals to us the secrets of the Kingdom of God. We are not in the dark, we are children of the light. Whatever is happening in the world is not a surprise to us, because it has already been written and we know that everything that occurs in this world is within God’s plan. Nothing comes as a surprise to God; He is the One in control. As children of God, we ought to remain watchful and prayerful. We should not be caught off-guard. Remain vigilant, do not slumber. Get to know the times that we are living in.

But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! 2 Timothy 3:1-5. 

We live in a world where too many people are self-centered. It has become a society where people seek what is in their best interest without considering their neighbor, and with no eternity in mind. Many people pursue what works for them, without regard to how their pursuits affect those around them. Too many people nowadays glorify themselves and have placed themselves on a pedestal.

Many are driven by the love of money, earthly prosperity, outer beauty, fame, pursuing fashions and trends of the world, showing off their lifestyle, accumulating followers, likes and shares on social media, getting many views and going ‘viral’ on social media, and such like. Most of these things are mainly about show-off, about getting human praise and validation, and they point to self and are for self-promotion. Many people who pursue such a lifestyle do not take the time to work on their souls and to grow spiritually and have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and thus, even though they may appear good on the outside and prosperous by worldly standards, many are spiritually bankrupt.

Living life in pursuit of pleasures and cares of the world is a vain way to live, and is like chasing after the wind. The only life worth living is the life lived for the honor and glory of God.

I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and indeed, all is vanity and grasping for the wind. Ecclesiastes 1:14.

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep His commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgement, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil. Ecclesiastes 12:13-14.

There are many people nowadays who are talking about loving self, and many are claiming that self-love is the highest form of love. There are many people who have come up and are teaching people to love themselves first. People are being told to love themselves, to put themselves first, and to pursue their best interests first. This has led to the rise of people in the society that are self-centered and who are driven by selfish carnal ambitions. Such a message of putting oneself first and loving self seems good to hear and makes people feel good about themselves, but it is not scriptural. Such messages attract large audiences and end up giving people an excuse to pursue selfish interests, usually at the expense of those around them. The message speaks to the flesh and promotes a carnal way of living. It is a message that goes contrary to what the Word of God tells us to do. Instead of dying to self and crucifying the flesh, it encourages people to put self first.

We live in a selfie selfish generation where many people do not consider others and like attracting attention to themselves. The Bible is clear that we are to love God first and above everything else, and also tells us that we are to do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit but in lowliness of mind we are to esteem others better than ourselves. The highest form of love is loving God first, and then loving our neighbors as ourselves.

Jesus was asked by a Pharisee who was an expert in the law what the great commandment is.

“Jesus said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your  mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 22:37-40.

The story of the good Samaritan illustrates to us how we are to love our neighbors. A certain man was going from Jerusalem to Jericho and was attacked by thieves. A priest came down that road and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. Likewise a Levite arrived at the place, came and looked, and passed by on the other side. But a certain Samaritan came, and when he saw the man, he had compassion. The Samaritan went and bandaged his wounds, set the man on his own animal, brought him to an inn, and took care of him. The Samaritan inconvenienced himself and paid the cost of taking care of that man who had been attacked, and in doing so, demonstrated real love towards his neighbor. Likewise, we are to go and do the same to those around us.

Unlike the ‘self-love’ that is being promoted, true love seeks to do good to others, even when it costs us. Love is patient and kind towards others and is not self-seeking. True sacrificial love comes from God, and a person cannot truly love others without loving God first. Only in God do we get to know what true love is, and it is God who enables us to love others as He desires us to love. To rise above the self-centered human nature and focus on the good of others requires God. God is faithful, when we are willing and obedient, He empowers us to love Him first above all else, and love our neighbors as ourselves. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. Love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.

God showed how much He loved us by sending His one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through Him. This is real love – not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. Beloved, since God loved us that much, we also ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and His love has been perfected in us. 1 John 4:9-12.

If someone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also. 1 John 4:20-21.

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God honors those who honor Him

The sons of Eli were corrupt and their sin was very great before the Lord, yet, Eli restrained them not. They did not honor the offering/sacrifice of the Lord. They did evil in the sight of the Lord. Because they did not honor God, neither did God honor them.

A man of God came to Eli and said to him, “Thus says the Lord: ‘Did I not clearly reveal Myself to the house of your father when they were in Egypt in Pharaoh’s house? Did I not choose him out of all the tribes of Israel to be My priest, to offer upon My altar, to burn incense, and to wear an ephod before Me? And did I not give to the house of your father all the offerings of the children of Israel made by fire? Why do you kick at My sacrifice and My offering which I have commanded in My dwelling place, and honor your sons more than Me, to make yourselves fat with the best of all offerings of Israel My people? Therefore the Lord God of Israel says: ‘I said indeed that your house and the house of your father would walk before Me forever.’ But now the Lord says: ‘Far be it from Me; for those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed. Behold, the days are coming that I will cut off your arm and the arm of your father’s house, so that there will not be an old man in your house. And you will see the enemy in My dwelling place, despite all the good which God does for Israel. And there shall not be an old man in your house forever. But any of your men whom I do not cut off from My altar shall consume your eyes and grieve your heart. And all the descendants of your house shall die in the flower of their age” 1 Samuel 2:27-33.

Our actions have consequences. God is our Creator and He has stated in His Word how He desires us to live during our lives here on earth. Our life is a gift, given to us by God. We are not our own, we belong to God. However, many people seem to forget that life in this world is temporary, they live for themselves and are driven by the love of money, and by their pursuit to fulfill their carnal desires. It seems like many people do not have eternity in mind. Many live in the moment doing whatever they want with no regard for God. They fail to remember that they will be judged by God concerning how they lived when on earth.

Therefore we make it our aim, whether present or absent, to be well pleasing to Him. For we must all appear before the judgement seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad. Knowing, therefore, the terror of the Lord, we persuade men; but we are well known to God, and I also trust are well known in your consciences. 2 Corinthians 5:9-11.

God honors those who honor Him. God honors those who have dedicated their lives for Him and have surrendered themselves entirely to Him. Whatever we do for God is never forgotten; there is a reward, both in this life and in the life to come. Our labor in the Lord is never in vain. Do not get discouraged and never grow weary in doing good. It does not matter what everyone around you is doing. It does not matter the type of lifestyle that people around you are living. Purpose to live for God, be set apart, and become light and salt to this fallen world. Do not get discouraged when you see as if the wicked people are prospering; remember people reap what they sow. Do not worry about evildoers, and do not be envious of the wicked, for the evil man has no future, the lamp of the wicked will be extinguished.

Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life. And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith. Galatians 6:7-10.

Woe unto those who have no regard for God, those who live for themselves, those who live in unrepentant sin, those who are driven by the love of money and are immersed in the pursuit of worldly pleasures. Those type of people are traveling along the wide path that leads to destruction. Those who despise the Lord shall be lightly esteemed and disdained. Never envy those who seem to prosper in their wicked ways; the wages of sin is death. Evil never wins. Instead, pray for them that their spiritual eyes will be open, they will repent and turn away from their sins, and pursue holiness and righteousness.

Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight! Woe to men mighty at drinking wine, woe to men valiant for mixing intoxicating drink, who justify the wicked for a bribe, and take away justice from the righteous man! Therefore, as the fire devours the stubble, and the flame consumes the chaff, so their root will be as rottenness, and their blossom will ascend like dust; because they have rejected the law of the Lord of hosts, and despised the word of the Holy One of Israel. Isaiah 5:20-24.

Abraham was a faithful servant of the Lord, and as a result, God honored him. Abraham obeyed God, he was a man of faith, and as a result, he become a blessed man. It was by faith that Abraham obeyed when God called him to leave home and go to another land that God would give him as his inheritance. He went without knowing where he was going. And even when he reached the land God promised him, he lived there by faith – for he was like a foreigner, living in tents. And so did Isaac and Jacob, who inherited the same promise. Abraham was confidently looking forward to a city with eternal foundations, a city designed and built by God. Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.

The children of Israel were promised blessings if they kept the commandments of the Lord. They were told that if they diligently obeyed the voice of the Lord God, and observe all His commandments, many blessings would come upon them and overtake them. The blessings of God are upon those who honor Him. Live your life for God, obey His Word, be led by the Holy Spirit, and let Jesus Christ be your personal Lord and Savior. There is everything to gain when we live for God, and everything to lose when we choose not to. We have free will, we can choose the path that we want to follow, but let us not forget that there are consequences for our actions. Those who are wise choose God’s way, for it is the only way that leads to eternal life. Be wise, live for God. When you honor God, He will honor you.

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It is what comes out of the mouth that defiles a person

What comes out of your mouth? There are many people who claim to be ‘good’ yet when they speak, they spit poison from their mouths. It is easy for people to put on a mask and pretend to be who they are not, but their fruits reveal who they really are. Many people will do anything to get what they want, they will put on a show in an attempt to manipulate others into giving them what they want. There are many master manipulators, cunning, and crafty people in this world. They will pretend for a season and for as long as they are getting their way, but when they realize that they can no longer get their way, they turn abusive, others will ignore you, and some will walk away never to be seen again.

Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man. Matthew 15:11.

Do you not yet understand that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and is eliminated? But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, and blasphemies. Matthew 15:17-19.

What kind of people do you surround yourself with? What kind of people do you entertain in your life? Are those people who call themselves your friends really friends or are they in your life on a mission to achieve what they want while using you in the process? Do not underestimate the extent that people can go to get what they want. Some will lie to your face, others will pretend to like or love you, others will give you all the attention and validation that they can give for a while, some will manipulate you with words and actions, others will use words to bring you down and demean you in order to weaken you. Not everyone who claims to be your friend is really a friend, some are using you to achieve what they want in life.

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17.

Human nature is fallen. Many people are driven by the lust of the flesh and desire for worldly pleasures and riches. When a person is being driven by selfish motives, usually such a person does not care about the hurt or pain they cause in other people’s lives. As long as that person is getting what they want, that is eventually all that they care about. Do not be surprised to find out that many people are in your life for a reason and for a season; there are many who may be using you as a stepping stone to go higher in life, and when they have used you and got all that they can get from you, they will eventually walk away and show you their true colors. Do not be easily impressed by the attention, validation, and colorful words that people give you, be keen and find out what their real intentions are. We live in a man-eat-man society nowadays, watch out, do not fall into deception, do not fall prey to those who are trying to use and misuse you.

The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart; his words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords. Psalm 55:21.

Fervent lips with a wicked heart are like earthenware covered with silver dross. He who hates, disguises it with his lips, and lays up deceit within himself; when he speaks kindly, do not believe him, for there are seven abominations in his heart. Proverbs 26:23-25.

When some people realize that they are not getting what they want from you, they will start degrading you. The person who you thought was very kind and charming turns around and starts throwing demeaning, abusive, vile, degrading words and actions towards you. When a person acts like that, it reveals their heart. It shows that their heart was not in the right place to begin with, and they were just trying to please and impress you for their own selfish motives. Do not be surprised when people act like that, rather, be happy that they showed you exactly who they are. When the fruit of a person’s life becomes manifest, you better believe it. Do not try to explain away a person’s bad actions and words, that is who they are, even if they are family, friends, colleagues, or total strangers.

You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thorn-bushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. Matthew 7:16-17.

What comes out of a person’s mouth defiles the person. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. When a person speaks, they are revealing their heart to you. Watch out what comes out of your mouth. In order to change your words, your heart has to change, because what you speak comes out of your heart. There is only one way to change your heart for the better and for good, that is, through Jesus Christ. Only God has the power to change a person’s heart completely for His honor and glory. When in Christ, we are made new creation and our hearts are regenerated by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17.

Feed your mind with the Word of God. Do not entertain things that feed into the lust of your flesh; guard your heart at all times. Be careful about what you watch, what you listen to, and the people you associate with. Your source of information is very important; when the source is wrong and deceptive, then your belief system will be negative and you will fall into deception. However, when your source of information is reliable, consistent, and true, then your belief system and thought patterns will be rooted in truth. The only source of truth is the Word of God. Learn to take your thoughts captive; if your thoughts are in control, then your actions and words will follow suit. Do not allow your thoughts to be negative or to run wild, be rooted in Christ, let your thoughts be in subjection to Christ.

For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:4-5.

When we are right with God, then our words and actions will testify of our personal relationship with God. Our words and actions will align with the Word of God. When we die to self, take our thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ, and are led by the Spirit of God, then from our mouths will come out blessings and not curses, we will speak to edify others, we will be kind and compassionate, we will build others up instead of tearing them down, we will be at peace with all men as far as it depends on us, and we will pursue holiness and righteousness. Out of our mouths the condition of our hearts will be revealed, that we are true children of God submitted to the will of our Father in heaven.

If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Romans 12:18.

Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord. Hebrews 12:14.

Do not allow your mouth to defile you. Pray that God, by the power of the Holy Spirit, will empower you to live a life that is pleasing to Him in every area of your life. Think about good things that are edifying. Allow God to search your heart and remove anything that does not please Him. Surrender yourself to God and allow Him to mold you into who He desires you to be. May your life be fruitful and rich of the fruit of the Holy Spirit. When you speak, let your words be honoring to God and be edifying to those who listen to you.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things. Philippians 4:8.

Blessings.

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Fear and control

Control is rooted in fear. Our desire to control things and people comes from wanting to know the outcome of a certain situation. We think that if we can control people and circumstances, then we can control the outcome. Uncertainty brings anxiety to many people. The unknown seems fearful. Because of that, many people like to remain in their comfort zones where they feel as if they are in control. Many people do not venture out because of fear, and because of that, they remain stagnant in life and do not get to achieve their full potential.

Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. Matthew 6:34.

It is easy to hold on to what we know. What we know gives us a sense of security and certainty. What we know seems less threatening than venturing out into the unknown. When something arises that threatens to disturb the calm of the comfort zone, many people fight back in an effort to restore the status quo. If they cannot retain the status quo, they start fighting to try and control the outcome of the new circumstances or people that are coming their way. Trying to control does not come from a place of strength, it comes from fear and is usually a sign of weakness, even if we do not admit those weaknesses to ourselves.

There are many people who do not know how to be alone. They seem to look outside of themselves most times to get validation and attention from other people. When they are alone, they have to face their own thoughts, and because they are afraid of that, they would rather go out there and look for someone or something that will keep them occupied. There are many people who get into friendships and relationships out of fear of being alone. When such enter into relationships, they eventually try to control the other person because of their fears and insecurities. Many people try to run away from themselves and indulge in unhealthy relationships and habits. This usually happens because they are not rooted in Christ.

The next time you try to control another person or the outcome of a certain situation, first ask yourself what it is about yourself that you are trying to run away from. Many people have unaddressed traumas, hurts, wounds, and many emotional issues. Instead of taking the time to look inward and work on themselves and look up to God for healing, many people eventually try to project their internal issues onto those around them.

If we do not take the time and really work on ourselves from the inside out, then the same patterns will keep recurring in our lives, and we will keep wondering why we do not seem to be progressing forward. What we may be dealing with or struggling with does not just disappear because we wished it away, we have to be very intentional about change. With God’s help, change is possible. There is no wound that is too deep that God cannot heal, there is no situation that is too hard that God cannot change, and there is no person that is too damaged that God cannot heal and restore.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17.

God has not given us a spirit of fear. God is in control of everything. Fear can be very paralyzing and has kept many people in bondage. Do not fear the unknown, do not fear making a step forward, do not accept to remain in your comfort zone; venture out and possess what God has in store for you.

Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. Luke 10:19.

We may not know what the future holds, but we are sure Who holds the future. It is God who holds our future, and because of that, we rest in Him knowing that we are safe and secure, and that He has good plans for us.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11.

The reason we try to gain control when we feel fearful is to get a sense of security or certainty. When things and people work out or do as we expect, then we feel safe. However, that is not how life works. We are not the ones in control, God is. We can control ourselves and how we respond to people and circumstances, but at the same time, we leave the rest to God. Let God be your safe place and your security. When fear and anxiety try to creep in, take those fears and worries unto God and allow the peace of God to guard your heart in Christ Jesus.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7.

Do not allow fear of whatever situation you are going through or fear of the future to rob you of your joy. Fix your eyes on Jesus Christ. Work on the heart issues that have been pulling you back; this is possible by the power of the Holy Spirit. Allow God to search your heart and heal you of the deepest wounds that have been keeping you captive.

Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my thoughts. And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:23-24.

Insecurities, fear of rejection, past hurts, people’s words and actions against us, negative body image, our upbringing and experiences growing up, and many such things get deeply ingrained in our hearts. If we do not face those things, eventually they burst out and become evident by the way we live our lives. Such unaddressed issues make people reactive, angry, bitter, controlling, jealous, full of hate and wrath, fearful, needy and codependent, and because of that, they end up sabotaging a person’s life and relationships. Do not confuse control with love; control comes from a place of fear while true love is rooted in God. If you have deep inner struggles, take them to God and allow Him to heal you.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3.

Let go of fear and choose to believe what God says about you, about what you are going through, about life in general, and about Himself. Face your fears and allow God to heal you and fill the voids within you. Let your identity be in God. Be rooted in Christ Jesus and be led by the Spirit of God. In God there is no fear. You do not need to know what the future holds but because you know Who holds the future, you can remain peaceful and feel safe and secure. Even when things do not turn out the way you had expected, continue trusting God and believing that He knows what is best for you. Believe that no matter what, all things work out together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose.

Blessings.

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